Positioning our FREE Coaching Platform - and guidelines for consideration to prevent Depression
This is a long blog post, so please bear with me as I position this Blog post appropriately, in relation to what we are currently all experiencing, and how I feel I have been called to address the situation.
As I’ve mentioned on the Radical Results FaceBook page, many people worldwide are feeling the distress of uncertainty both about the potential outcome of COVID-19, but also the uncertainty of the new reality, the new and different future that lies beyond lockdown and post COVID-19.
People are feeling the stress of isolation, especially because human beings are made to be social beings and are not designed to live in isolation and lockdown.
The combination of isolation - cramming families into confined homes, apartments and living quarters (which are mostly used to sleep in) - whilst in times of extreme uncertainty - being consistently confronted with negative news of more confirmed cases, more deaths, etc. - combined with fear, is a sure recipe for depression!
Refer to my earlier blog post on preventing fear, anxiety and specifically stress from having a negative impact on your immune system.
Technology in the 4th Industrial Revolution, fortunately, assists in the sense that people can still communicate with loved ones, family and friends or colleagues, even though they are geographically spread all over the world.
Although physically isolated and locked down, people can still stay and to an extent, be and feel in touch with others.
This is good!
It is also good that people are exposed to exciting, diverse, entertaining, and innovative ways, by others who are trying to keep themselves busy or helping other people feel less depressed. I salute all these people that are reaching out to those that are less creative in spending their lockdown time productively, positively and in mentally healthy ways.
Also, refer to my recent post on physical and mental health tips during this trying time.
I’ve had several people reaching out to me, asking if I can assist with coaching them as individuals or as couples in coping with these stressful times. Parents are also asking for coaching to deal with frustrated children being rebellious due to the stress of being locked down.
In consideration of how best I can help and address all these requests effectively and meaningfully, I’ve decided to, instead of coaching individuals or couples privately, propose a different strategy to help as many people as possible.
So, here is how I can help:
I will be posting a "General Coaching" topic with some guidelines on our Facebook Page, daily. If you feel the need to reach out to me, you can then either;
send me a private message on Facebook Messenger (if you want to remain anonymous and confidential about the question or request), or
you can contact me (also confidentially) through the Radical Results website,
...using the Subject: Coaching Topic or Request - Tell me the request, the Coaching topic you want to discuss, or ask specific questions about.
I will go through all the messages, questions and advice requests received daily through both these channels and I will then post answers, responses, and advice, or “coach” people through this time.
Please accept that I won’t be able to answer all the requests in one day or in one post, hence posting daily. As we go through all the messages and requests, we’ll categorise them into themes, topics and specific subjects like Couples Coaching; Parent Coaching; Loneliness; Mental Health such as Depression, Physical Health, Immune System, etc.
According to the priority and the most requested topic or theme, I’ll post a response on the Radical Results Facebook page daily.
I’ve noticed with the requests received so far, that people mostly ask the same questions. I believe I can serve many more people this way, and continue to coach them through these difficult times effectively.
These posts will also maintain confidentiality in the sense that no reference will be made as to who asked for what kind of coaching.
So, for me to ensure the coaching is RELEVANT, kindly make use of this invitation. Kindly go to the Radical Results FaceBook page for the daily Coaching posts.
It will be highly appreciated if you can Like and Share these posts so that other people that may not know me or Radical Results will also have access to the FREE Coaching.
Radical Results is sowing the FREE Coaching complimentary for as many people to make use thereof, and this is how you can help those people that may never have had the privilege or access to Life Coaching or even State-of-the-Art Health & Wellness Coaching.
Bless your fellow citizens and friends like you have been blessed.
The Coaching is offered COMPLETELY FREE with NO expectation of any remuneration or payment.
I do this for three reasons:
I will do this FREE Coaching as part of my Ministry that I believe I’ve been called to. I do not charge for my Ministry work. This is how I can sow seeds of LIFE! I’ll share a little more about this later in this post.
Many of the people reaching out to me are also financially burdened and stressed, either due to their uncertainty of still having a job or uncertainty if their small business post-lockdown and COVID-19 will still be able to survive, or because they have already been retrenched finding themselves in a financial crisis, etc. The objective of the FREE Coaching is to alleviate stress, not to add to it. The objective is also to help as many people as possible, whether they can afford Coaching or not.
One reason why I started the Radical Results Online and Virtual Business on the 7th January 2020 was because I realised, I cannot help enough people by having a physical clinic, physical & f2f business consulting and coaching business. With an Online Virtual Business, I can serve my clients and patients much more cost-effectively, yet I can serve thousands of people at the same time. Hence my decision to extend the invitation to everybody and anybody to benefit from this FREE Coaching, rather than me coaching and helping only a few people that can afford it.
For today, I’ll do an extensive post on the Radical Results Blog in addition to the first FaceBook Coaching Post. Both the Coaching Blog Post (below) and the FaceBook Coaching Post topics are in response to private questions, advice requests and Coaching requests I’ve received over the past few weeks.
Before I dive deep into today’s Coaching Blog Post, I’d like to state the following disclaimer.
I always emphasise that when I make recommendations, give advice and provide protocols, it is always based on gold-standard, evidence-based science and research, unless I specifically state otherwise – like in this case (the Blog Post below) which it is my personal opinion and viewpoint.
I’ve had many questions asked (and seen the same on social media and even on international television):
How is this possible?
What is the TRUTH and what is fake (and as you may know by now, I am for always seeking the TRUTH)?
Will the Health Care Professionals and medical fraternity globally be able to curb this in time? We’ve seen very little of the desired flattening of the curve yet.
Why has this happened?
This situation is surreal and totally unexpected. Scientists should have expected this, and surely there should have been a cure prior to it becoming a global pandemic?
I feel like a victim! It appears nothing I do or can do as an individual or what we as a family can or will do, can protect us from this disaster! What now?
Ok - so now we get to today's actual Blog Post:
Answering the above Questions and giving guidelines for consideration to prevent Depression!
It’s natural that people want to make sense out of life. When unexpected, disappointing, or frustrating things happen to us, we start questioning life. It’s like people find it hard to cope and deal with things, if they aren't able to make sense to them.
COVID-19 and the subsequent lockdowns across the globe have stressed people out. We are struggling to make sense out of the situation, and the uncertainty in combination with being restricted through lockdown is heightening the occurrence of Depression.
In relation to the five statements/questions mentioned previously, as a Coach, I have to innovatively explore:
How can I bring hope to the masses (I’m not dealing with one individual and his/her unique and known circumstances)?
What can I share with them that will provide these diverse and unique people that I do not know, with guidance to make sense of this disaster?
What practical tools can I provide them to use as a GPS to find their own destiny and their own answers that make sense to them?
Is there actually hope or do I have to play with words just to pretend there is hope?
How can I authentically encourage and help the people that are reaching out to me or those who are reading this post now?
Is there anything that I can share with them to lift the despair, to lift the uncertainty and help them cope better with the situation?
Radical Results has already posted health tips like many others. Others are sharing jokes to try and alleviate the stress. Entertainment is offered and people are trying in many ways to “help” people through the mediums of TV and social media.
Is there anything else that I, as a Coach could do or share to make a positive and lasting impact rather than just redirecting the focus of attention away from the negative for a short while, only for the fear, panic, stress and anxiety to set in immediately after?
Although I pray daily for all the sick people, the people in panic and fear, and also for the exhausted Health Professionals and Health Workers that work around the clock, away from their families, without proper rest, constantly and globally dealing with more challenges than just the seriousness (we must remember, most of us see the impact of COVID-19 on TV or social media clips) that they face every minute of the day in real life!
The other challenges they are dealing with apart from the actual COVID-19 spread, is not being with their families, or the fear that they may fall ill and die due to the exposure, being exhausted, and being worried that the infrastructure will not be enough (hospitals and beds, not enough, adequate or the right equipment (PPE to protect them, as well as treatment equipment like respirators and ventilators), test kits and laboratory facilities, and sufficient medically trained staff.)
Am I living in a different sphere that I do not experience the same depressing feelings of hopelessness or am I conveniently denying the seriousness and the facts as a coping mechanism?
Yet, I experience a calm and a feeling of peace that even I am astounded by…
At times I have to ask myself if this is a coping mechanism to emotionally distance myself from all the above, or do I not realise the severity and the impact on people globally and around the world?
Understandably, every human being uses different coping, defense and survival mechanisms to get through life. I am not aware of any person that has never used, are using, or at some point will use these mechanisms throughout their lifetime. This is just what human beings do.
Depending on the questions and requests for topics that you pose to me, I may in future share more about these mechanisms.
I can share what are healthy coping mechanisms and what are considered unhealthy, and how to use them effectively as a strategy.
Yesterday morning when I woke up, I knew that I had to share with you, the answer to the above five questions and statements, but although I knew “what” I wanted to share and should share with you, I did not know in what context...
I was not sure “how” to present it to you on a Coaching Platform, and I’ve written it in many forms, re-writing it since yesterday, and reflecting on it ... and that is how I came to the decision to do this additional Coaching session as a Blog Post versus a FaceBook Post.
Below is how I personally make sense of all of this, and this is why I am comfortable that I am not denying the facts and severity of what is going on, and I’m certain I’m NOT in denial as a coping mechanism:
You may or you may not know or realise that we are all SpiritBeings. We were not created as a body with a soul and spirit added to the body at a later stage. No, we are primarily SpiritBeings. We were created firstly as SpiritBeings, long before Planet Earth or our Universe. After the creation of our Universe and Planet Earth, the human body was created on the sixth day of Creation. Thereafter God, the Creator of all, breathed Spirit and Life into man.
As a side note: No scientist has ever been and will never be able to create LIFE. Not human life, not animal life, not plant life. Through cloning, seeds and growing stems of plants, they grow new animals and plants, but no scientist has ever and will ever be able to create LIFE out of nothing. ONLY God creates! This is a separate conversation and topic for debate that I will not linger on any longer.
As SpiritBeings we were specifically created to have dominion and rule here on Planet Earth. For us to have dominion, live, work and rule here on earth, by the rules of the Creation of Planet Earth, we had to have a physical body for the SpiritBeing to live and operate in. Therefore God, the only Creator, breathed Life and Spirit into the body of Man after he created the human body on the 6th day. Important to note is that man was made in the Perfect Image of God (God is a Spirit) to rule and have dominion over everything on earth, except over its own. One human being was not meant to or instructed to rule over another human being.
Since forever man has tried to rule over another man, nations have tried to rule over other nations, … Since forever there has been a constant fight and war for Power and Control. In this reality, Power is measured in Money … and Control is dependent on Money …
Man’s focus is not bringing Glory to the Lord. Man forgot his original purpose.
Man was created through Jesus Christ and through Him to bring Glory to our Creator, God Almighty.
When Jesus Christ died, it was an act of LOVE. God, Abba Father gave His only begotten Son to die on the cross for our sins, but also for our health. Yes, let’s read what the Word says in only two relevant verses, namely;
“Heal me, O Lord, and I will be healed” and
Isiah 53: 5:
“… The punishment [required] for our well-being fell on Him, and by His stripes (wounds) we are healed.”
That means we must not have a spirit of fear, panic or anxiety about COVID-19. It does, however, mean we must shift our focus and energy away from COVID-19 to Jesus Christ, our Lord, our Creator, our Saviour and the only Healer.
God promises us healing and health if we repent our sins and for breaking our relationship with Him. He wants us to turn to Him. Repent means to turn away from sin, towards Jesus and His Love for us, re-establishing our relationship with Him, aligning our SpiritBeing with the Holy Spirit. Nurturing our relationship with the Holy Trinity, God Almighty, living in righteousness with Him and bringing Glory to Him alone.
This is the ONLY way to have dominion over sickness, and this includes COVID-19.
We were originally created and instructed to have dominion and rule in victory.
Let’s pray together as in;
3 John 1:2:
“Beloved, I pray that in every way you may succeed and prosper and be in good health [physically], just as [I know] your soul prospers [spiritually].”
Look at what is happening all over the world, in Italy, in Spain, in Brazil, Rio de Janeiro, etc.
People are standing on their balcony’s singing and praising Lord, God Almighty. TV footage and social media clips show that there is a turning back of people that have never prayed before or haven’t prayed recently, people who lived “in the world in a worldly manner, forgetting about their Creator and Saviour”, now returning to re-establish their relationship with God.
In hospitals all over the world we see Health Professionals and Health Workers praying, agreeing that our only help is from God Almighty.
God NEVER turns back on His Word. He promised if we repent, turn away from our sinful ways, and turn back to who we were originally created to be, turning back to the relationship we were originally created in, dwelling in His Presence, we will receive peace of mind that goes beyond any mental understanding, as promised in Philippians 4:7.
Is this possibly the purpose of COVID-19? Is God calling us to repentance and back into a significant relationship with Him, as He designed and meant it to be?
We are surely living in the end times. Without putting any date on the event, we can be sure that we are very close to the end of life as we know it here on earth. Now, this is NOT about doom and gloom. This is a message of ENCOURAGEMENT!!!
Jesus Christ was raised from the dead by the Holy Spirit, within three days as prophesised. Before ascending to the Heavens Jesus said that He is going to His Father’s Mansion to prepare a place for us. He also said He’ll come back to fetch us and take us with Him to Heaven, where He is currently preparing a Home for each one of us.
We will leave our physical bodies behind and our Spirit will go Home to where we come from, and to where Jesus, the Son of God, is currently preparing a Home for us. Jesus promised we will then forever be with Abba Father, Jesus Christ and our SpiritBeing will reign forever with the Holy Spirit.
This is the way it was meant to be from the day our SpiritBeings were created in the perfect Image of God Almighty, before the creation of this universe and this earth.
The promise includes that before we go to Heaven and Home where we will live and rule forever with God Almighty, that NO harm will come to his Own.
Revelation 3:10 says (which speaks of a time before the Rapture of the saints – more teaching about the Rapture will be given elsewhere and at a later stage):
“Because you have kept the word of My endurance [My command to persevere], I will keep you [safe] from the hour of trial, that hour which is about to come on the whole [inhabited] world, to test those who live on the earth.”
Could this COVID-19 be this hour of trial that was prophesised about many years ago and by what God told Paul to write up as the revelation given to him. Are we being tested? Or will we be kept safe from the hour of trial because we are obedient?
This surely implies a CHOICE!
I find peace, calm and re-assurance in the Word of God. I don’t have to deal with uncertainty. I know that there will be an hour of trial (COVID-19 or some other trial unknown to me), but I also know I will be protected from it and no harm will come to me and my family.
There is no need for depression, anxiety, panic and fear. In times like this, and in times of despair, frustration or stress, the only answer that comes to mind for me, is:
Psalm 121:1-2 Amplified Bible (AMP)
A Song of Ascents.
1 I will lift up my eyes to the hills [of Jerusalem]— From where shall my help come?
2 My help comes from the Lord, Who made heaven and earth.
Dear Reader, there is NO judgement yet. It does NOT matter who you are, what you’ve done in your past, or how anxious, fearful or panic-stricken you are now. It does not matter where you find yourself at this moment in time. The fact that you are reading this and the fact that you are still alive, means there is HOPE and that you can still by CHOICE change your situation, change your emotional state positively, and change your destiny.
Irrespective of how bad, sad or terrible your past has been until NOW, you can CHOOSE to change it positively forever.
This is a personal and warm invitation for you to accept if you have not done so before. This is meant to bring joy, thanksgiving and relief from depression, fear and stress to you.
The personal invitation of LOVE to you is:
The Greek word "repentance" is used in the Bible as a noun.
Repentance means “metanoia” which means “a change of mind.”
When Jesus started His ministry, He said: “Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand” (Matt 4:17).
In this case, Jesus used the verb form of repentance which is “metanoeō” which again means “to change one’s mind”, turning away from our past sins and sinful way of living.
Repentance is not just a change of mind but a change of intention and a change of the heart.
It is an intentional change or turning away from sin and turning to God, from wanting to sin to wanting to rejoice, to wanting to praise the Lord, and to wanting to live with immense gratefulness in our hearts.
We have an immense gratefulness in our hearts because Acts 3:19 assures us:
“Repent therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out.”
Isaiah 30:15 promises:
“This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength, but you would have none of it.”
It is OUR CHOICE!
The other side of the CHOICE is clear:
“But because of your stubbornness and your unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God’s wrath, when his righteous judgment will be revealed.”
You HAVE a CHOICE!!!
You are NOT the victim, NOT even a victim in terms of COVID-19 and lockdown.
CHOOSE NOW! CHOOSE LIFE! CHOOSE VICTORY!!!
Deuteronomy 30: 19-20.
“ … I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse; therefore, you shall choose life in order that you may live, you and your descendants, 20 by loving the Lord your God, …”
Below are some of the verses that have been inspirational to me in preparing this Coaching Blog Post. These and other verses served as directing guidelines for the above Coaching Post (highlighting the verses added by Illona):
Genesis 1:26 Amplified Bible (AMP)
26 Then God said, “Let Us (Father, Son, Holy Spirit) make man in Our image, according to Our likeness [not physical, but a spiritual personality and moral likeness]; and let them have complete authority over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the cattle, and over the entire earth, and over everything that creeps and crawls on the earth.”
Genesis 1:27 Amplified Bible (AMP)
27 So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created them; male and female He created them.
Genesis 1:28 Amplified Bible (AMP)
28 And God blessed them [granting them certain authority] and said to them, “Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth, and subjugate it [putting it under your power]; and rule over (dominate) the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and every living thing that moves upon the earth.”
Genesis 2:7 Amplified Bible (AMP)
7 then the Lord God formed [that is, created the body of] man from the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and the man became a living being [an individual complete in body and spirit].
Acts 17:29 Amplified Bible (AMP)
29 So then, being God’s children, we should not think that the Divine Nature (deity) is like gold or silver or stone, an image formed by the art and imagination or skill of man.
Ephesians 1:3 Amplified Bible (AMP)
3 [a]Blessed and worthy of praise be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms in Christ,
Ephesians 1:4-5 Amplified Bible (AMP)
4 just as [in His love] He chose us in Christ [actually selected us for Himself as His own] before the foundation of the world, so that we would be holy [that is, consecrated, set apart for Him, purpose-driven] and blameless in His sight.
5 In love, He predestined and lovingly planned for us to be adopted to Himself as [His own] children through Jesus Christ, in accordance with the kind intention and good pleasure of His will—
Romans 11:36 Amplified Bible (AMP)
36 For from Him [all things originate] and through Him [all things live and exist] and to Him are all things [directed]. To Him be glory and honor forever! Amen.
Revelation 5:13 Amplified Bible (AMP)
13 And I heard every created thing that is in heaven or on earth or under the earth [in Hades, the realm of the dead] or on the sea, and everything that is in them, saying [together],
“To Him who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb (Christ), be blessing and honor and glory and dominion forever and ever.”
John 14:2 Amplified Bible (AMP)
2 In My Father’s house are many dwelling places. If it were not so, I would have told you, because I am going there to prepare a place for you.
John 14:3 Amplified Bible (AMP)
3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back again and I will take you to Myself, so that where I am you may be also.
1 Thessalonians 4:17 Amplified Bible (AMP)
17 Then we who are alive and remain [on the earth] will simultaneously be caught up (raptured) together with them [the resurrected ones] in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord!
Revelation 3:10 Amplified Bible (AMP)
10 Because you have kept the word of My endurance [My command to persevere], I will keep you [safe] from the hour of trial, that hour which is about to come on the whole [inhabited] world, to test those who live on the earth.
Revelation 3:11 Amplified Bible (AMP)
11 I am coming quickly. Hold tight what you have, so that no one will take your crown [by leading you to renounce the faith].
Jeremiah 17:14 Amplified Bible (AMP)
14 Heal me, O Lord, and I will be healed; Save me and I will be saved, For You are my praise.
Isaiah 53:4-5 Amplified Bible (AMP)
4 But [in fact] He has borne our griefs, And He has carried our sorrows and pains; Yet we [ignorantly] assumed that He was stricken, Struck down by God and degraded and humiliated [by Him]. 5 But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was crushed for our wickedness [our sin, our injustice, our wrongdoing]; The punishment [required] for our well-being fell on Him, And by His stripes (wounds) we are healed.
3 John 1:2 Amplified Bible (AMP)
2 Beloved, I pray that in every way you may succeed and prosper and be in good health [physically], just as [I know] your soul prospers [spiritually].
Philippians 4:7 Amplified Bible (AMP)
7 And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours].
Deuteronomy 30:19-20 Amplified Bible (AMP)
19 I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you today, that I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse; therefore, you shall choose life in order that you may live, you and your descendants,
20 by loving the Lord your God, by obeying His voice, and by holding closely to Him; for He is your life [your good life, your abundant life, your fulfillment] and the length of your days, that you may live in the land which the Lord promised (swore) to give to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.”
As previously emphasised, the FREE Coaching Platform on the Radical Results website and on the Radical Results FaceBook Page requests or expects no remuneration. It’s the seed Radical Results sows in obedience and gives freely to those that can and want to benefit from it.
If this FREE Coaching Platform is not sufficient to your needs, and you would like more intensive and focussed Personal/Business-related Coaching, you can however still book private Coaching Sessions with me, by clicking the link below:
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Stay Safe everyone!